Lifestyle a way of life

lifestyleLifestyle is defined as “a way of life or style of living that reflects the attitudes and values of a person or group.” This section will address just that. It is about how we choose to live. The motto of my therapy practice is “design your life” because I believe that when we choose to be in control of our lives, to make conscious decisions of what we want it to look like, that is when we truly live. That is the way to happiness. It’s not enough to just survive, my goal is to help people to truly thrive, to find their inner peace, to get the most out of this thing we call life. So this will be the focus of this section.

What are the things that work for us? What can we do differently? What do we need to scrap completely? Being mindful of these questions and evaluating what your life truly looks like will help you achieve the happiness you want. Or maybe you’re already happy. Maintaining that happiness and peace requires mindfulness as well. Because life is so fluid, it is every changing. We need to constantly be aware of these changes and how we respond and adjust to them. What worked in one era of our lives may not be so effective in another. If we pay attention to this and focus on finding that balance, we will be able to maintain happiness.

As we near the end of our lives, it is human nature to reflect back. If we feel a sense of fulfillment we will feel satisfied. If we experience regret, it can lead to bitterness and despair. So my philosophy is, don’t wait until it’s almost over and difficult or impossible to change; do it now! Get in the driver’s seat! Be mindful and reflective of what is happening in the present and change what does not work.

This section is the broad catch-all to address all lifestyle related issues. The goal of this section is to really help readers “design your life”!

Health takes many forms

Health takes many forms, including physical, mental, and emotional. There is the health of the individual and of relationships. Things are often described as being “healthy” or “unhealthy”. I think sometimes it’s not that simple. In this age of so much information, there is so much conflicting information that it can be confusing to know what is really healthy and what is not. In addition, I think what is healthy in one situation or for one person sometimes may not be healthy in another. So how do we know? What should we be doing for our bodies? What about our minds? How should we handle emotions, when to let ourselves feel them and when to work on changing them? It is all so complicated. It can be overwhelming.

In this section, you will find information on all aspects of health. I believe strongly that all parts of who we are are interconnected and if we want to truly be healthy, it requires us to work on all aspects of what makes up our being. Emotional health will be addressed. The relationship between physical and emotional health is also something that will be explored. For example, issues like anxiety, depression, unresolved grief, and trauma can all affect physical health.

This will also be the page where mental health issues will be addressed; diagnoses like ADHD, bipolar disorder, anxiety, depression, and Autism, to name a few. I’d like to explore the age old nature versus nurture debate when it comes to these issues. For example, if we are genetically predisposed to a certain diagnosis, what determines if we end up with the diagnosis? Do issues like lifestyle, stress, and coping mechanisms factor in to if we end up with the diagnosis? If so, what can we do to lessen our chances of having a diagnosis? I hope you will find helpful information in this section. Please let me know if there’s a topic you’d like addressed. My goal is to discuss topics that effect us all and to help provide some clarity and tangible suggestions.

Relationships take many forms

relationshipsRelationships take many forms. There are intimate partners, casual acquaintances, coworkers, friends, collegues, peers, family, and people we encounter every day. What makes us choose who we choose to have a relationship? Why did we choose that one person out of all of our coworkers years ago to maintain a friendship with? How did we end up dating our current partner? How and why do we choose our friends? What are the determining factors for if we like someone or we can’t stand to be around them? These are all interesting questions. The truth is, our lives are defined largely by our relationships. At the end of life when people reflect back, it is always the relationships they’ve had that either bring a sense of fulfillment or a feeling of despair. It is, in most people’s opinion, the most important thing in life.

As humans, we are social creatures, we need interaction with others to feel happy. We gain joy from relationships. Sometimes we experience pain from our relationships. Either way, life would be boring without them. And as with anything that is important in life, there is much potential for things to go wrong in this arena.

In this section, the focus will be mainly on relationships that do not fall into one of the other categories. Articles you can expect to find here over time, include subjects such as coworkers, friendships, dealing with neighbors, other parents in your kids’ school or on a sports team, etc. It is a catch-all place to find information that helps us on this journey through life so when we look back at how we’ve handled our interactions with others and the relationships we’ve experienced, we feel a sense of fulfillment and not one of despair.